Here are our top ten recommendations if you are looking for the best books to read in Adoption. We have made sure our list is diverse to cater to the interests of different types of readers.
1. Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person
2017 Audie Award Finalist for Audiobook of the Year The megatalented creator of Grey's Anatomy and Scandal and executive producer of How to Get Away with Murder chronicles how saying yes for one year changed her life - and how it can change yours, too. With three hit shows on television and three children at home, the ubertalented Shonda Rhimes had lots of good reasons to say no when an unexpected invitation arrived. Hollywood party? No. Speaking engagement? No. Media appearances? No. And there was the side benefit of saying no for an introvert like Shonda: nothing new to fear. Then Shonda's sister laid down a challenge: Just for one year, try to say yes to the unexpected invitations that come your way. Shonda reluctantly agreed - and the result was nothing short of transformative. In Year of Yes , Shonda Rhimes chronicles the powerful impact saying yes had on every aspect of her life - and how we can all change our lives with one little word. Yes.
- Author: Shonda Rhimes
- Genre: Biographies & Memoirs, Arts & Literature, Actors & Entertainers
2. Twice a Daughter: A Search for Identity, Family, and Belonging
Julie is adopted. She is also a twin. Because their adoption was closed, she and her sister lack both a health history and their adoption papers—which becomes an issue for Julie when, at forty-eight years old, she finds herself facing several serious health issues. To launch the probe into her closed adoption, Julie first needs the support of her sister. The twins talk things over, and make a pact: Julie will approach their adoptive parents for the adoption paperwork and investigate search options, and the sisters will split the costs involved in locating their birth relatives. But their adoptive parents aren’t happy that their daughters want to locate their birth parents—and that is only the first of many obstacles Julie will come up against as she digs into her background. Julie’s search for her birth relatives spans eight years and involves a search agency, a PI, a confidential intermediary, a judge, an adoption agency, a social worker, and a genealogist. By journey’s end, what began as a simple desire for a family medical history has evolved into a complicated quest—one that unearths secrets, lies, and family members that are literally right next door.
- Author: Julie Ryan McGue
- Publisher: She Writes Press (May 11, 2021)
- Genre: Kindle Store, Kindle eBooks, Religion & Spirituality
3. The Connected Child: Bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family
"An extremely useful parenting handbook... truly outstanding ... strongly recommended." --Library Journal (starred review) " "A tremendous resource for parents and professionals alike." --Thomas Atwood, president and CEO, National Council for Adoption "The Connected Child provides the parents of adopted at risk children easy to follow practical advice on how to handle behavior problems in a calm, gentle, effective manner." --Temple Grandin, Author, The Way I See It, The Autistic Brain The adoption of a child is always a joyous moment in the life of a family. Some adoptions, though, present unique challenges. Welcoming these children into your family--and addressing their special needs--requires care, consideration, and compassion. Written by two research psychologists specializing in adoption and attachment, The Connected Child will help you: Build bonds of affection and trust with your adopted child Effectively deal with any learning or behavioral disorders Discipline your child with love without making him or her feel threatened "A must-read not only for adoptive parents, but for all families striving to correct and connect with their children." --Carol S. Kranowitz, author of The Out-of-Sync Child "Drs. Purvis and Cross have thrown a life preserver not only to those just entering uncharted waters, but also to those struggling to stay afloat." --Kathleen E. Morris, editor of S. I. Focus magazine "Truly an exceptional, innovative work . . . compassionate, accessible, and founded on a breadth of scientific knowledge and clinical expertise." --Susan Livingston Smith, program director, Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute " The Connected Child is the literary equivalent of an airline oxygen mask and instructions: place the mask over your own face first, then over the nose of your child. This book first assists the parent, saying, in effect, 'Calm down, you're not the first mom or dad in the world to face this hurdle, breathe deeply, then follow these simple steps.' The sense of not facing these issues alone--the relief that your child's behavior is not off the charts--is hugely comforting. Other children have behaved this way; other parents have responded thusly; welcome to the community of therapeutic and joyful adoptive families." --Melissa Fay Greene, author of There is No Me Without You: One Woman's Odyssey to Rescue Africa's Children
- Author: Karyn B. Purvis
- Publisher: McGraw-Hill Education; 1st edition (April 22, 2007)
- Genre: Business & Money, Management & Leadership
- ISBN: 978-0071475006
- Dimensions: 5.9 x 0.6 x 8.9 inches
4. The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment
There Is Hope for Every Child, Every Parent, and Every Family Parenting under the best of circumstances can be difficult. And raising children who have come to your home from “hard places,” who have their own set of unique needs, brings even more challenges. You may have discovered that the techniques that worked with your birth children are not working with your adopted or foster child. Renowned child-development expert Dr. Karyn Purvis gives you practical advice and powerful tools you can use to encourage secure attachment in your family. You will benefit from Karyn’s decades of clinical research and real-world experience. Coauthor Lisa Qualls demonstrates how you can successfully implement these strategies in your home, just as she did in hers. You will learn how to simplify your approach using scripts, nurture your child, combat chronic fear, teach respect, and develop other valuable tools to facilitate a healing connection with your child. The Connected Parent will help you lovingly guide your children and bring renewed hope and restoration to your family.
- Author: Lisa Qualls
- Publisher: Harvest House Publishers (July 7, 2020)
- Genre: Christian Books & Bibles, Christian Living
- ISBN: 978-0736978927
- Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.4 inches
5. The Primal Wound
The Primal Wound is a seminal work which revolutionizes the way we think about adoption. It describes and clarifies the effects of separating babies from their birth mothers as a primal loss which affects the relationships of the adopted person throughout life.. It is a book about pre-and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding, and loss. It gives adoptees, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as well as explanations for their behavior. It lists the coping mechanisms which adoptees use to be able to attach and live in a family to whom they are not related and with whom they have no genetic cues. It will contribute to the healing of all members of the adoption triad and will bring understanding and encouragement to anyone who has ever felt abandoned..
- Author: Nancy Newton Verrier
- Publisher: Gateway Press (April 1, 1993)
- Genre: Health, Fitness & Dieting, Psychology & Counseling
- ISBN: 978-0963648006
- Dimensions: 6 x 0.5 x 9 inches
6. Before and After: The Incredible Real-Life Stories of Orphans Who Survived the Tennessee Children's Home Society
The compelling, poignant true stories of victims of a notorious adoption scandal—some of whom learned the truth from Lisa Wingate’s bestselling novel Before We Were Yours and were reunited with birth family members as a result of its wide reach From the 1920s to 1950, Georgia Tann ran a black-market baby business at the Tennessee Children’s Home Society in Memphis. She offered up more than 5,000 orphans tailored to the wish lists of eager parents—hiding the fact that many weren’t orphans at all, but stolen sons and daughters of poor families, desperate single mothers, and women told in maternity wards that their babies had died. The publication of Lisa Wingate’s novel Before We Were Yours brought new awareness of Tann’s lucrative career in child trafficking. Adoptees who knew little about their pasts gained insight into the startling facts behind their family histories. Encouraged by their contact with Wingate and award-winning journalist Judy Christie, who documented the stories of fifteen adoptees in this book, many determined Tann survivors set out to trace their roots and find their birth families. Before and After includes moving and sometimes shocking accounts of the ways in which adoptees were separated from their first families. Often raised as only children, many have joyfully reunited with siblings in the final decades of their lives. Christie and Wingate tell of first meetings that are all the sweeter and more intense for time missed and of families from very different social backgrounds reaching out to embrace better-late-than-never brothers, sisters, and cousins. In a poignant culmination of art meeting life, many of the long-silent victims of the tragically corrupt system return to Memphis with the authors to reclaim their stories at a Tennessee Children’s Home Society reunion . . . with extraordinary results. Advance praise for Before and After “In Before and After, authors Judy Christie and Lisa Wingate tackle the true stories behind Wingate’s blockbuster Before We Were Yours, of the orphans who survived the Tennessee Children’s Home Society. With a journalist’s keen eye and a novelist’s elegant prose, Christie and Wingate weave together the stories that inspired Before We Were Yours with the lives that were changed as a result of reading the novel. Readers will be educated, enlightened, and enraptured by this important and flawlessly executed book.” —Pam Jenoff, author of The Orphan’s Tale and The Lost Girls of Paris
- Author: Judy Christie
- Publisher: Ballantine Books (October 22, 2019)
- Genre: Kindle Store, Kindle eBooks, History
7. André The Best Big Brother: A Story Book for Kids Ages 2-8 To Help Prepare a Soon-To-Be Older Sibling For a New Baby (Live, Laugh, Grow)
A new baby is a huge adjustment for the entire family and can be especially confusing for a young child. These changes come to life through the heartwarming character of big brother, André, whose experiences will feel very authentic to the young reader. This is the perfect book to help prepare a soon-to-be older sibling for a new baby! From the Back Cover: André is ecstatic about becoming a big brother. But upon the arrival of the new baby, he quickly learns that being an older sibling is both wonderful and confusing at the same time. Join André as he adjusts to life as a new big brother. This sweet story explores family life through the eyes and heart of a child. To say THANK-YOU , this book comes with a free gift at the end of the book!
- Author: Mikaela Wilson
- Publisher: Mikaela Wilson Books Inc. (December 14, 2020)
- Genre: Children's Books, Growing Up & Facts of Life
- ISBN: 978-1735352107
- Dimensions: 8.5 x 0.1 x 8.5 inches
8. Second Parent: a memoir
Despite a growing number of people who identify as LGBTQ, there are surprisingly few accounts of queer parenthood. Written by a lesbian, non-biological mother, this story fills the gap with perspective and grace. After her wife gave birth, Lora struggled to find her identity as a new parent and lesbian, non-biological mother. When she learned that the legal system did not fully recognize her parental status as a non-biological parent, she chose to do a “second parent” adoption. Initially, this further spurred feelings of inadequacy. She was not the bio-mom. She was the second parent, the other mother. As Lora’s son grew, she grappled to fit into social and legal landscapes and even her own family. In this memoir, Lora shares an honest account of her journey into parenthood. She reflects on growing up with a mother living with mental illness and how that experience raised questions about her new role. With clarity and humor, Lora describes her new identity as a lesbian, non-biological mother, which grows to encompass the words parent, mother, and family. "Liegel’s personal reflections will likely resonate with other nonbiological mothers, and this book adds to the small but growing collection of their narratives. Other nonbiological mothers may be heartened to know that someone else has gone through what they, too, may be experiencing in terms of both legal processes and emotions—and their spouses/partners may also benefit from viewing this perspective. And beyond any issues of nonbiological and biological parentage, many readers should appreciate Liegel’s descriptions of situations that any new parents might experience, such as dealing with the exhaustion of having an infant or trying to balance parenthood and a social life. Parenting is a journey, and memoirs like this can be useful guidebooks." ( Mombian )
- Author: Lora Liegel
- Publisher: Independently published (June 10, 2021)
- Genre: Politics & Social Sciences, Social Sciences
- ISBN: 979-8509539978
- Dimensions: 5.25 x 0.51 x 8 inches
9. Stranger Care: A Memoir of Loving What Isn't Ours
NEW YORK TIMES EDITORS’ CHOICE • “A powerful, heartbreaking, necessary masterpiece.”—Cheryl Strayed, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Wild The moving story of what one woman learned from fostering a newborn—about injustice, about making mistakes, about how to better love and protect people beyond our immediate kin May you always feel at home. After their decision not to have a biological child, Sarah Sentilles and her husband, Eric, decide to adopt via the foster care system. Despite knowing that the system’s goal is the child’s reunification with the birth family, Sarah opens their home to a flurry of social workers who question them, evaluate them, and ultimately prepare them to welcome a child into their lives—even if it means most likely having to give the child back. After years of starts and stops, and endless navigation of the complexities and injustices of the foster care system, a phone call finally comes: a three-day-old baby girl named Coco, in immediate need of a foster family. Sarah and Eric bring this newborn stranger home. “You were never ours,” Sarah tells Coco, “yet we belong to each other.” A love letter to Coco and to the countless children like her, Stranger Care chronicles Sarah’s discovery of what it means to mother—in this case, not just a vulnerable infant but the birth mother who loves her, too. Ultimately, Coco’s story reminds us that we depend on family, and that family can take different forms. With prose that Nick Flynn has called “fearless, stirring, rhythmic,” Sentilles lays bare an intimate, powerful story with universal concerns: How can we care for and protect one another? How do we ensure a more hopeful future for life on this planet? And if we’re all related—tree, bird, star, person—how might we better live?
- Author: Sarah Sentilles
- Publisher: Random House (May 4, 2021)
- Genre: Kindle Store, Kindle eBooks, Politics & Social Sciences
10. An Innocent Baby: Why would anyone abandon little Darcy-May?
When foster carer, Cathy Glass, is asked to foster Darcy-May, a two-day old baby, she is very concerned. The baby is coming to her straight from hospital and will have no contact with her teenage mother, Haylea. Even more worrying, she will be brought to Cathy with a police escort as it’s vital her extended family don’t know where she is. Abandoned at birth, Cathy and her family quickly bond with little Darcy-May although they have to accept she will eventually leave them to be adopted. But fostering is rarely straight forward, and when Haylea asks to see her baby a different story begins to emerge. It’s so alarming that even Cathy, a highly experienced foster carer, struggles.
- Author: Cathy Glass
- Publisher: HarperElement (September 16, 2021)
- Genre: Parenting & Relationships, Family Relationships